Inspiration, Mindset

Fear and Obstacles

2012 Tour

2012 Tour

Many of us would like to change certain things in our lives, but when it comes to making tough decisions, we freeze and run the other way.  Why? When we should be our own best friends and cheerleaders we often sabotage our confidence with obstacles like negative self-talk. How can we rise above our fears and obstacles to live a life we’ve always dreamed?

We all march to the beat of our own internal drummer, which is what makes each one of us unique.  With outside influences from the media to the people around us, it can be difficult to trust the God-spirit within us to be authentically ourselves. We are constantly interacting with people who either approve or disapprove of who and what we are.

Neil deGrasse Tyson is an astrophysicist who could see the possibilities when he was a young boy growing up in the inner city.  All odds were stacked against him.  Kids like Neil were pushed into athletics, not academics, but he persevered.

Obstacles are energy vampires (read my blog http://shemanenugent.rocks/energy-vampires/), or people who negatively impact us on even a small level.  But we can be our own energy vampire too.  Eventually the negative self-talk we use can become thoughts we believe.

When my husband asked me to dance on stage at one of his rock ’n roll concerts I never second-guessed myself.  Twenty years prior, however, I might have.  My insecurities of not being good enough or looking the part would have been overwhelming.  For some reason, however, Ted waited until I was 48 years old to ask me to dance on stage. The way I saw it was that time was running out for me.  It sure wasn’t going to happen when I was 58 years of age. I had been teaching dance/fitness classes for 30 years.  So, I pushed through my fears and I did it!

If we focus on our greatness we can move past our fears, whether self-imposed or from others. Don’t let a lack of experience or education become an obstacle. If there is something that you always dreamed of doing like changing a job or skydiving, the more you train your mind to think in a new perspective and rehearse the steps to fulfill that dream, the more obtainable it can become.

 

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21 Comments

  • Reply Alan Benevento July 29, 2015 at 10:00 pm

    Hi
    Keep up the good work.
    Ted ROCKS!!
    Alan

  • Reply Tom July 30, 2015 at 12:10 am

    Shemane, you are beautiful, intelligent, articulate…. do you have a sister who is single, close to your age, looks/thinks just like you and lives in Detroit area for me? I remember listening to the radio the week that you met Ted, how he took you for a ride in his Corvette, etc.

    Tom
    West Bloomfield, MI

    • Reply Shemane Nugent July 31, 2015 at 5:57 pm

      Lol!!
      I remember that well!! Seems like only yesterday…..
      Here we are 26 1/2 years later! Wow!

  • Reply Duane July 30, 2015 at 1:08 am

    Thank you so much for coming to Lafeyette,La for support, u guys r so awesome. That is what seperates u from d rest, luv yall

    • Reply Shemane Nugent July 31, 2015 at 5:56 pm

      It was fun to meet so many great people and help with a great cause!
      Many blessings!

  • Reply Jim July 30, 2015 at 1:41 am

    Hello

    Very well put together website and information. I will pass along and be interested in reading more about life quality. I wish you success with it!
    Jim

  • Reply Anonymous July 30, 2015 at 3:03 am

    Thank you for everything you do ,I have followed .Mr .Ted Nugent &Family 30 plus years

  • Reply Trapper Ed July 30, 2015 at 2:12 pm

    Good 4 u !
    Amen n God bless your gun$ !
    Rock n Roll !😈/😇/😴?
    Thanks.

    Trapper Ed

  • Reply Rich Simpson July 30, 2015 at 3:11 pm

    Hi Shemane,
    I just wanted to take a minute and say, “Thank You”, for your healthy lifestyle blog. I’ve been a ‘Nuge’ fan since I was a teen, love your “Spirit of the Wild” program, and now I’m following your blog for inspiration. I’ve struggled with anxiety all my life and have recently come to realize that my ‘fears’ are primarily of result of years of constant self-defeating negative self talk…exactly what you mentioned in today’s blog. This ‘self-made’ fear has been an obstacle to me because I avoid if possible or self medicate those things that I have come to fear in my mind. Now I realize that it is really the ’emotional responses’ that are harrowed up every time I face those challenges in my life (sleeplessness, restlessness, panic, etc.) that I’m really fearful of, not the actual experiences, which always seem to turn out well in spite of my reservations. As you mentioned overcoming negative self talk might just be our best ally for enjoying a life of fulfillment and it’s resultant peace and well being.
    Thank you for your council, Shemane
    Rich Simpson

    • Reply Shemane Nugent July 31, 2015 at 5:54 pm

      Thanks for your comments Rich! It’s great that you are recognizing what you might need to take charge of. That’s the biggest battle. Not ignoring your fears, but facing them!
      Congrats!

  • Reply Joni Cecchini July 31, 2015 at 2:39 pm

    Let me tell you I just took a Zumba class with you and let me tell you sista you have nothing let me say it again nothing to be insecure or shy about because let me tell you you can dance sista you are a rock and roll Zumba goddess. Thank you for an amazing class you made it very easy to follow and keep up. So keep on doing what you do because you are amazing. Peace and Dance on.

    • Reply Shemane Nugent July 31, 2015 at 5:51 pm

      Well, thank you Joni!! Many blessings to you! I hope we can dance again together someday soon!

  • Reply Pete Miller July 31, 2015 at 8:34 pm

    Trying To Get Rid of The energy Vampires….I Get Sucked In so Easy….There’s No sense in Spasm on things That are Beyond our Control …..Really sucks up brain energy….My Wife is 61…..And For some Reason…Ha…She Can Dance Better Than The 21 Year Old….Lol……

  • Reply Michele Froehlich July 31, 2015 at 8:55 pm

    I totally agree with Joni’s comments above:) I also took a Zumba class from you and Yes!, You can certainly dance, sista!! You made it so much FUN! I also attended the “Celebrate and Sparkle” event and was equally as blessed by your words of inspiration. I love God’s timing on things. Shortly after Celebrate and Sparkle I had to put my dog down after 15 years of his love. So having both these events has really brought back my joy! So you don’t realize it, but you are such a HUGE blessing to others!! xo

    • Reply Shemane Nugent August 1, 2015 at 11:20 am

      Wow! Thanks so much Michele! That made my day! Thanks for taking the time out to respond here.

      I’m so sorry to hear about your dog. That is devastating, I know. My dog Happy is the result of losing 2 other dogs within 6 months. Such a heartbreaker. Happy lives up to his name though and brings me a lot of joy too.

      I’ll keep you in my prayers. Sending you massive love & light. xo

  • Reply Cindi Lycan August 1, 2015 at 10:23 pm

    Shermane I had a blast this morning at the Y. It’s my second class I’ve taken from you and loved every minute of it. There aren’t many that can make us burn over 500 calories a class but you are one of them! Love it! Joni and I were comparing our Polar fitness watches comparing calories and heart rates . You mentioned mine isn’t as high as hers because Iam on Statins. I would love to know more about this and how I should stop them.
    Anyways looking forward to Mondays class downtown! You are so much fun! Hugs

    • Reply Shemane Nugent August 2, 2015 at 12:29 pm

      Hi Cindi!!
      So happy to have had you in my Zumba in the Circuit class!! We had fun, didn’t we?!
      Please check with your doctor and get an update about your overall health and going off statins. My goal in life is to not have to take anything, but sometimes we need to.
      Thanks again for commenting! See you Monday! hugs!

  • Reply Lorrie Harp August 10, 2015 at 12:31 am

    Just a quick note. I’ve been trying to wrap my head around new to my Breast Cancer. And your blog has given me thoughtfulness. Instead of a battle i choose beauty and not battle scars. I’m embracing this journey and am offering Love to my new body. I know to most women it IS a battle. But instead of running away or battling. IM choosing my best self in love. Thanks so much for your wisdom in being our best self. ROCK ON!

    • Reply Shemane Nugent August 15, 2015 at 11:07 pm

      Wish I could give you a hug, Lorrie. God bless you. You have an amazing attitude of gratitude. YOU can help so many people. I’ll bet you already have.

      xo

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